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  1. Gender disappointment–oh, yes. My ideal family was at least two girls. (Note: “at least”–if I could have 3 or more I was quite willing to add boys into the mix.) But I didn’t meet my husband until my mid-30’s and was pushing 40 when my daughter was born. So I only managed one more, and I deliberately asked the gender during the mid-pregnancy ultrasound because if it was a boy, I knew I would be disappointed and I wanted to get that out of the way before I was dealing with a newborn. And it was indeed a boy; I mourned my second daughter for a week or so, and readjusted my thinking to welcoming a son. And he turned out to be the most wonderful little boy you could ask for. (Still is, just not little any more.)

    My daughter, like you, now has three boys of her own and badly wants a girl. I could see the disappointment in her face when I had to tell her, after the 3rd birth “it’s Noah. Yes, definitely it’s baby Noah.” She too recovered quickly and wouldn’t trade him for any number of girls, but next time she is definitely going to find out before the birth.

  2. I only have one sweet babe, but I was really convinced she was a ‘he’ up until the gender reveal! I mean, I really REALLY believed it, even though I wouldn’t admit that to anyone. So when the OB confirmed she was a SHE I just…I was in shock. I really sort of disconnected – it took me quite a while to connect to my baby again and really imagine raising a daughter.
    You’re definitely not alone!

  3. When I was pregnant with my first, I had dreams of having a daughter. I KNEW we were having a girl. My husband, however, really wanted a son and the night before the ultrasound/gender reveal, I felt the Lord say that he was giving us a son right now, instead of our girl. Sure enough, the next day we found we were having a boy. I was extremely touched that the Lord heard my husband’s heart and gave us a boy, but I honestly had to kind of grieve for our girl! Those feelings are so weird and unexpected, but they are definitely real!

  4. I had definite gender disappointment with #2. You are definatly not alone in that. I wouldnt change him for anything in the world now tho!

  5. I found your blog from Jen’s 7QT link! I look forward to reading more! I have a girl and three boys all 5 and under. Our oldest son (3 1/2 yrs old) is a HANDFUL. He is branded the fear and love of toddler boys deep into my heart all at the same time and it’s quite confusing! I can totally relate to your gender disappointment!!! When we found out the gender of our little guy who was born last week I was also really disappointed. We did a huge gender reveal thing and all I wanted to do was join my 5 year old crying for a sister, but I felt like I had to put on a happy/grateful face and pretend I was excited to manage another toddler phase with a boy… I was sure it was going to be a girl. I wanted one so badly. But, now having just met our 3rd son face to face I am actually so glad we did find out the gender at 18 weeks,. I got my morning out of the way and by the time he was born both my daughter and I were genuinely excited about bringing home another brother. I’m starting to love the idea of being the “boy mom” and how fun our house will be during those teenage years. But I am definitely scared to learn what 3 boys 3 and under is going to be like for the next few years…. yikes!

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