OH?
Carolyn? You’re really going to write a post?
..you are, aren’t you?
YES. I DAREST WRITE, EVEN TO THE CRICKETS IN THE NIGHT.
(though it be 5 months since the last.)
If you have not been with me over on the king of social media, here’s what’s going on:
FIRST THINGS:
We have a new Svell in the house.
Dominic Ross.
9lbs 11oz.
Birth story coming, perhaps.
He’s already one month old. Man if that’s any indicator that I need to just let my domain name renewal pass, I don’t know what is.
All I have to say –because really, I have a lot to say, so I’m trying to do it Princess Bride “let me sum up” style- ALL I HAVE TO SAY! Is that as far as adding baby to the family goes, the transition from one baby to having 2 kids was hardest for me. The second hardest transition seems to be from having 4 kids to 5.
And that makes me laugh because at this point, it’s like, what’s one more? But for a HSP all the yell-talking from each of the 4 children AT THE SAME TIME+nursing a floppy baby+me trying to hear my own voice delegating simple tasks to each person+Emmett having a meltdown each time the batteries on his favorite toy die (which is often.) ((THE HUMANITY.)), or robotically reciting the name of the President of Sudan 500 times in a row= yes, second hardest transition.
I’d become used to being the homeschooling heli-mom who can jump in and wipe things and people asap, and suddenly I cannot. And it makes me a bit squinty and twitchy. And one particular parent decided it’d be a grand idea to start potty training Jude at this time. I won’t say who, but it wasn’t me. GRAND IDEAR.
The messes are good. Real good.
But, the brotherhood (bickerhood?) is real good too. I’ve sat and listened to Lexington teach Collin how to add, how to spell, how to do many of the things he’s supposed to learn in Kindergarten so much to the point that I’ve considered starting him off at first grade level next year. This also serves me a big scoop of gratification as I see Lexington *is* in fact learning enough to actually teach someone else (if ever I were to feel a bit self doubt-y in homeschool land). I’ve sat nursing Dominic from my Breastfeeding Jail cell in the living room listening to both Lexington and Collin ask Emmett for help on spelling complicated words. I witness them help Emmett through difficulties, bringing him down from a thrashing screaming level, to a coherent state where it’s possible to finally figure out what he needs. Also, they make eachother lunch.
Real good.
I’ll leave it at that for now and hopefully be back with Dominic’s birth story. It involves hallucinations of clouds and choirs of angels.
A Merry Christmas and happiest of the new 2018 to you all. 💛
PS. To quell your burning curiosity, the president of Sudan is Omar Hassan Ahmad al-Bashir. The “ah” in Ahmad has that hawk-a-loogie sound which Emmett has perfected as of today. Therefore, I have a 7 year old wandering around saying this name constantly with excellent Arabic pronunciation, while also demanding “THE BIGGEST PEANUT BUTTER AND JELLY SANDWICH THE WORLD HAS EVER SEEN.”
I love that Lexington and Collin ask Emmett for help in spelling words! <3
Lol, we potty trained our first when our second was 4 weeks old, too. Big mistake. HUGE. I mean, it was fine, whatever, but I will never do that again. (Also, my husband convinced me to do it, too. Not okay, man. Putting my foot down next time.)
I’m having this with 3 to 4 still at 10 months in at times. My oldest likes to have his hand held through things as he’s just that personality and it makes for rough times with a higher needs baby that won’t be content on her own. Your new baby is beautiful.
Well, I went from 3 to 5 so whew! Got to miss out on that one. Three to five was wild, wild times though. Wild. Six was cake and we’ll find out about 7 in another fifteen weeks or so.
I don’t have any children on the autism spectrum, but I do have kids that like to repeat the same thing over and over and over and over, just because it tickles their mouth and ears. Drives me up the wall. “Thomas Jefferson and old Ge-ORGE Washington sailed the OCEAN blue”. Please, not another 300x.
My son doesnt phave autism but still finds it necessary to say “take over the world” in a robot voice about a million times a day.
You’re amazing! I love the way you write as well. God bless your heart.
Agreed x1000 4 to 5 was hellish- and you are amazing having all boys + one with special needs- seriously super woman, no matter how many messes. Homeschooling with this many littles is the most insane thing I’ve ever tried to do. Solidarity and prayers, Carolyn!!
You are Wonder Woman, super mom, and a true inspiration! I seriously feel like I’ve become a better mom after listening to your episode on Fountains of carrots and working more diligently to be calm and centered in my day to day parenting.
I’m right there with you.. 0-1 was my hardest until I did 4-5 kids. This has been the hardest transition!
Oh you’re totally right, 4 to 5 was really really hard!!! Part of it is also that there’s no longer any possibility of simultaneous naptime + school needs to get done, I think? What a little love, though!!
We have 8 but with a 6 year gap in tiers. Tier 1 is the “older” kids. Then we had 5 in 7 years and that’s Tier 2. And totally agreed-4 to 5 in my Tier 2 has been butt-kicking. However, I have help from Tier 1 but it isn’t a perfect scenario either. They are their own group of mess too. Solidarity and congratulations!!